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What can you say when they say...

©2000 Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC 136 Ellis Hollow Creek Road Ithaca, NY 14850 

"How long are you going to nurse that baby?"

  • "Oh, another ten minutes or so." 
  • "I have no idea." 
  • "As long as we both enjoy it." 
  • "Well I doubt that she'll go to college nursing, but this is the best thing I can do right now to make sure she does go to college!" 
  • "Why do you ask?" 

"When are you going to start giving him real food?"

  • "Goodness, what do you think this is?" 
  • "Why do you ask?"

"What's in the big box?"

  • "A breast pump." 
  • "My baby's lunch." 
  • "Wouldn't you like to know!" 
  • "Why do you ask?"

"You hold that baby too much."

  • "Do you think so?" 
  • (with a grin): "Yeah!" 
  • "Too much for what?"

"You shouldn't have that baby in bed with you."

  • "Ah, but don't we have a happy baby?" 
  • (with mock indignation): "Now, really, is it any of your business who I'm sleeping with?" 
  • "Well, that's where most of the world's babies have always slept.  Seems to work."
  • "Why not?" 
  • "Oh?"

"You shouldn't nurse your baby to sleep."

  • "Well, he's too young to read himself to sleep." 
  • "Why not?" 
  • "We have to enjoy it now, because he won't want me to when he's ten."

"You're spoiling that child."

  • (with a grin): "Jealous?" 
  • (with a grin): "Yeah.  Aren't we terrible?" 
  • "Do you think so?"

"Are you sure you have enough milk?"

  • "You change her diapers for a while, and you won't have to ask!" 
  • "Yes." 
  • (motioning to baby): "Well, she's pretty sure!"

"Is she nursing again? You must not have enough milk."

  • "Actually, this is how she makes sure I have plenty." 
  • "This isn't just her food, it's the center of her universe."

"I think it's time you weaned that child."

  • "What for?" 
  • "Really?" 
  • "Now is when it's really getting fun." 
  • "What could we possibly gain from that?" 
  • "I don't.  Neither does he."

"As your health care advisor, I think you should... (start supplementing or wean, or whatever)."

  • "I'd like a little more information before I make such an important decision." 
  • "I'm not really comfortable with that approach.  Can you show me the studies that support it?" 
  • "Mmm." 
  • "But is that a medical issue or a parenting issue?" 
  • "What are my other options?  What will happen if I don't?" 
  • "Can you recommend a breastfeeding specialist I could talk it over with? What are her credentials?"

If you'd like more ideas, call your local La Leche League group (or 1-800-LA LECHE), or an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant  (you can find one through ILCA or through

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