Congratulations! You’re pregnant again!
Is it safe to continue? What can you expect?
Some toddlers object to the loss of both amount and sweetness, and stop nursing before their younger sibling is born. Others come to enjoy the no-milk nursing. But most mothers find their bodies changing in a surprising way: they no longer enjoy nursing the older child. They may feel nipple tenderness, or outright pain, or they may feel an “antsiness” that makes them want to push the nursling off their laps.
Some mothers choose to wean in the face of all this, others choose to continue. Some toddlers wean, others choose to continue. Every family is different. If the toddler nurses until the baby is born, he may wean because he doesn’t like all the milk… or he may quietly develop a double chin! There will be plenty for two if he opts to continue (or to resume after having stopped). Mothers may even find they use the toddler to help with any engorgement.
If you find yourself tandem nursing, you may find that your children enjoy sharing “nummies”, patting and stroking each other if they nurse together and developing a lovely, loving relationship. You may also find the book “Adventures in Tandem Nursing” by Hilary Flower really helpful. Bottom line: every experience is different, and there’s no wrong way to proceed, as long as you follow your heart.
©2015 Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC www.normalfed.com